Lots and Lots and Lots of Thoughts: Weight Loss and Weight Gain

The other day I was talking with a sales rep and asked her if she had a dress in my regular size. She paused and said, “Are you sure you wouldn’t like to size up? You might be more comfortable.” (Note: not a hint of sarcasm or fat shaming in her voice, just a recommendation)…

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Lots and Lots and Lots of Thoughts: Weight Neutral Language

WEIGHT NEUTRAL LANGUAGE: Pregnancy edition. When I was pregnant with the twins, my body became the focus of every single conversation. It became increasingly apparent (your mom’s a parent) to me that I was gaining weight faster than most of my friends did when they were pregnant. Not only was I aware of this… but…

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Lots and Lots and Lots of Thoughts: Diet Culture and Body Neutrality

I’ve got some more real talk for you today: Most of the time I am body neutral. This means that I go throughout my day without really thinking about my body too much. I don’t obsess about how I look, I don’t obsess about food, I don’t have to actively try to love my body……

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Lots and Lots and Lots of Thoughts: Diet Culture… I’m Fat

I’m fat. It’s a fact. This isn’t me being degrading towards myself. This isn’t me hoping you will comment below and say, “You’re not fat… you’re beautiful!” Let me tell you why. “You’re not fat… you’re beautiful!” is a fat-phobic message that says fat = ugly between the lines. Being fat is a fact. I…

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Anxiety, Avoidance, and Accountability

Heyyyyy. It’s been a while. And despite the fact that I have so many things I want to say and to share, I haven’t been able to bring myself to post them here. I have been feeling a burst of anxiety again these past few weeks. It sucks. Today is particularly anxiety-filled. I’ve been working…

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Lots and Lots and Lots of Thoughts: Diet/Wellness Culture.

I really love this article. I blogged about it a few days ago, but I have more thoughts. In case the linked text above doesn’t work, here it is to copy and paste: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/06/08/opinion/sunday/women-dieting-wellness.html?fbclid=IwAR0EpMQf49Sw2AVSfuskVKiJVkDSqGgNALDnwV_ejU_dbAmJiHfnVUwOp-w “The diet industry is a virus, and viruses are smart. It has survived all these decades by adapting, but itโ€™s as…

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Step Away From Diet Culture, Love.

The New York Times Article: Smash the Wellness Industry I’ve seen this article (link above, read it!) circulating on my @sandpaper.and.glass Instagram feed. I follow a very curated group of people including Intuitive Eating Nutritionists/Dietitians. Body Positivity and Health at Every Size Influencers. I am grateful that they share such powerful, relatable content. A friend…

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Broken.

“I don’t think you’re as broken as you think you are…” My previous therapist said this to me a year ago, and it was a revelation. A huge weight lifted off my chest. Maybe she is right– maybe I’m not broken. This is one of the shame tapes that runs through my head often. “I’m…

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Re-Branding

I’m stressed. I try to write but everything seems to be coming out wrong. I’m not authentic enough. I’m not knowledgeable enough. I don’t know the studies or articles to annotate this message. I want to talk about other things I am passionate about, but will I lose my following? Do I even have “a…

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Tightly Wound: A Film About Vaginismus

I recently watched this film (via the Tightly Wound Film website) and was so touched by the depth of honesty, vulnerability, creativity, and hope. Thank you so much for sharing your story with the world.

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